Do you consider yourself to be a confident person?
Even those who would answer yes to that question have moments where they doubt themselves. They feel unsure of their abilities or fear taking risks for the things they want. The reality is that most people struggle with confidence at some point in their lives. While it may seem like an innate trait for some, confidence is something that can be developed with a little bit of work.
That’s good news!
If you wanted to run a marathon, you wouldn’t just lace up your shoes and show up on race day ready to win. You would have put in hundreds of hours of training to get to the point where you could complete the race. When building self-confidence, it requires practice, repetition and positive habits. It won’t happen overnight, but you can build your confidence to help you achieve whatever it is that you want.
What does it feel like when you don’t have self-confidence?
Many people experience that knowing, tingling sensation in their gut when their self-doubt starts creeping in. Self-doubt’s job is to protect you from pain or failure. It will sound the alarms whenever you are about to take a risk, put yourself out there or do something you’ve never done before. When you listen to the self-doubt more than you believe in yourself, you can get stuck in a pit of fear, worry and inaction.
How can you cultivate a strong sense of self-confidence? What habits can you adopt that will help you feel empowered and capable in any situation. If you are ready to fully embrace the wonder of who you truly are, you can start by building your self-confidence.
Here are our favorite tips, exercises and habits that you can use to build confidence and boost your self-esteem.
6 Ways to Build Self-Confidence
Visualization: If you can see it, you can be it. Think about what your perfect vision of success looks like. See it in your mind and include every sensory detail to make it as real as possible. Visualization uses the power of your mind to create the version of yourself that you want.
Positive Self-Affirmations: The words that we use have power. When we talk down to ourselves, we are reaffirming our insecurities and strengthening our self-doubt. By using positive affirmations, we can begin to change the way we think and feel about ourselves.
Challenging Your Assumptions: You know what they say about assumptions, right? Many of us have a script that we have been using for years that tells us that we aren’t good or enough or whatever it is we are insecure about. Have you ever taken a moment to challenge that script? The next time you hear yourself say you can’t or shouldn’t do something, ask yourself if that is really true.
Do What Scares You: Sometimes, the best way out of something is to go through it. Do something that is outside of your comfort zone every day. It doesn’t have to be big, because small things can add up to big results. Sure, feeling uncomfortable doesn’t feel comfortable! The more you expose yourself to discomfort, the easier it becomes to handle the feeling in the future.
Set Yourself Up for Success: When you set impossible goals for yourself, are you really surprised when you don’t achieve them? Allow yourself to build confidence by setting small, more achievable goals at first. These wins will help you build momentum for your larger and more challenging goals. Remember, slow and steady wins the race.
Give Back: Volunteering your time or resources to someone in need is one of the easiest ways to feel good about yourself. When we do something to make a difference in our community, we get a powerful boost of positive feelings like connection, usefulness and gratitude. Plus, seeing how your efforts positively impact the lives of others shows you the innate power and worth you already have.
10 More Quick Ways to Boost Self-Confidence
There are other simple ways you can exude confidence externally that will help you cultivate confidence internally. Try a few of these this week and notice how it changes your perception of yourself.
- Use clear and direct language.
- Smile at people you pass; this shows that you are proud to be yourself
- Accept compliments, instead of balking at them.
- Take care of your physical and mental health.
- Make eye contact to create connection and cultivate respect.
- Improve your posture by standing and sitting up straight.
- Celebrate your successes in whatever way feels right to you.
- Fake it until you make it.
- Make friends with rejection.
- Listen to music that makes you feel inspired.
How will you boost your confidence this week?