Are you determined to make 2023 the best year ever?
Here are 5 tips to create an amazing year ahead.
1. Set intentions, not goals
It seems like every year people write those New Year resolutions. Yet, it seems like every year many people do not follow through with those resolutions.
One thing you can do to help yourself follow through is to think more about your intentions. A goal is something that is in the future. It implies that you are not where you want to be now. Intentions on the other hand, start right now. Let me share some examples. I intend to be ___ ( your desired weight). I intend to create a great relationship, etc. implies you are moving toward your desired results right now.
Another effective way to state intention is to use the phrase ”I choose..” I choose to weigh a certain number of pounds. I choose to create a great relationship. When we make choices we are intending to achieve our desired outcome.
Set your intentions frequently and you’ll notice things start to move in the direction you’d like them to, naturally and easily.
2. Identify what the” best year” looks like and take small steps toward it
You might want your life to be better than it was last year, but it’s important to write down what the “best year” looks like, feels like, and sounds like. What would you be saying to yourself or others at this same time next year? How exactly would your life look? What would your day-to-day life be like? How would you be feeling about your life? The more thoroughly you describe writing this “best year” the more your subconscious mind can help you create that life. The subconscious goes to work to help you bring about what you imagine.
Next, you’ll want to take action steps to create the life you thought about and wrote down. Make those doable small steps that let your subconscious know you are serious.
3. Break those chronic patterns and habits
Pretty much everyone has chronic patterns and habits that repeat over and over. While you might move forward at times, those patterns usually take us back to those behaviors that no longer serve us.
What are your patterns or habits you can change this year?
Overeating, overworking, procrastination, overdoing, pleasing too much, etc. Have an honest talk with yourself. What will it really take for you to either break or reduce the frequency of this pattern or habit?
An example of this is overeating junk food when you are stressed. For instance, a client changed her pattern of eating junk food often in her week to overeating junk food once a week. This year she is shooting for overeating every ten days. Any step you take toward changing the pattern will help you start to break the pattern or at least reduce the amount of time the pattern or habit affects your life.
4. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people
We all need people that nurture and support us. These people make a huge difference in the quality of your life. When there are challenges in life or you get discouraged, these people will cheer you on. Plus, if you are going to have a great year you are going to be with great people. Either eliminate or spend less time with people who aren’t your best allies.
5. Know life has unlimited possibilities for transforming, changing and improving any area of your life.
Every day is a new beginning. While our brains believe we are stuck in a particular situation or circumstance, the reality is there are ALWAYS ways to improve things. That’s what makes Life Coaching so powerful! When the client explores all the possibilities new ideas come to mind and new opportunities present themselves. Don’t buy into the belief that your life is set. Get creative, be open to new and effective ways to make your life better. Once you open up to life’s possibilities you will find that, you often become surprised how life transforms and supports you in moving forward.
Fern Gorin, P.C.C., L.M.F.T. is the Founder and Director of Life Purpose Institute, a Life Coach Training Company. She started her coaching practice in 1984 and worked with thousands of clients to powerfully create the life they want.